Sunday, June 17, 2007
Terrifying Toddlers
Well, this is as good a place as any to get things off my chest so I thought I'd vent my frustrations a little. I've had one of those "inadequate mum" days when everything I say to my wonderful, willfull daughter goes in one ear and out the other or gets transformed along the way into some kind of nonsensical act of reckless mischief. I am exhausted! I seem to have spent all day saying "No" and trying to calmly explain "why" - when inside I'm boiling over with frustration. She seems to get wilder by the day. I went to mum's and toddlers group this afternoon and she was pushing the other kids around and tipping them off toys that she wanted. Then she went and emptied the ball pit all over the floor so that I had scrabble round on my hands and knees for half an hour picking them all up, whilst the other mum's looked on as if in pity or disapproval. I spoke to my daughter, but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I don't do stern discipline, although I sometimes lose my rag. Hubby says it's good we're letting her be a child, unrestrained, expressing herself, but I hope I'm not in some way to blame for her naughtiness - I've always tried to teach her right from wrong. I suppose all parents must feel like this. Still, with the spectre of school looming in September - I do hope she'll settle down a little and start to listen to me! Saying that, she's brilliant - she can make my heart melt with love - I just wish I didn't feel so INADEQUATE! Still - good news, I finally managed to finish a fic last night! I was close to scrapping it, then I pulled it back together at the last minute. It was going to be restrained but ended up steamy again - why does that always happen? I'm so weak! I just need to get it beta-ed then I'll post it up!
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(((Igraine))) All kids have a period when they seem uncontrollable. My mom was lucky with me only because I was too ill to cause too much mischief. ;)((((Hobbit hugs to you)))))
Thanks Ellin (((Hugs you back!)))I'm sure you're right. She's got so much energy at the moment and she doesn't seem to know what to do with it all. Plus, once she gets an idea in her head there's no stopping her. Sometimes I feel (sort of) in control and other days (like today!) I'm thinking I must be the worst mum in the world!Perhaps school will help her settle down - who knows?
Welcome to LJ igraine! Another one enters the asylum, yay. :D
Thanks Meryl - lovely to see you! (((Hugs)))
School will surely help. Moreover, I know that there's a period when kids try to do what thew KNOW is wrong - just to see the reaction of parents and people around. It passes.(((igraine)))
Oooo. Look who's showed up in lj land. Welcome to the madness!Off to read your new fic...Hewene
Hi Hewene! Thanks for the welcome. I've been putting this off for a long time - but finally caved in after realising that I would probably lose contact with a lot of people if I didn't take the plunge.Good luck with that fic (gulp!) - the next one is much fluffier!
finally caved in after realising that I would probably lose contact with a lot of people if I didn't take the plunge.That's exactly the same thing that dragged me into lj, too.the next one is much fluffier! It had better be! I literally don't think I could survive another one like that!!!!! Oh! the ANGST!!!!!! Oh! my heart!! ACK!!! You. Are. Evil. Excellent story, but Evil.Hewene
Sorry about that Hewene! ... Grins evily... I did warn you! And, yes, the new fic is fluffy and fun and (pretty much) angst free - thank goodness. Once I'd finished the angst, I decided I'd pretty much steer clear of it for a while. Still, having labelled it as a disaster and best hidden in the dark recesses of lj land, I'm really chuffed (and quite amazed) that you thought it excellent! Thanks!
Igraine! I also didn't realised you had ventured into LJ land ... so good to have you here!!Of course you aren't the worst mum in the world ... parenting is the hardest job in the world believe me! You tend to blame every facet of your child's character and behaviour on your own strong points, or faults, if you are anything like me ....*hugs*bagendbabe
BEB!!! (((HUGS)))Thanks for the welcome! My moods go up and down like a yo-yo - it seems I'm always in some kind of emotional turmoil or other - and my daughter pretty much takes after me. Although, I have to say she's been great company this week, a little calmer (thank goodness) and totally absorbed in drawing. She's just discovered she can draw people and it's keeping her cheery. Witchy babe of Irish blood? We could be twins! :)
(((HUGS))) Igraine!!My moods are exactly the same - my hormones are hell!!! lol and yes, my daughter is the same - she is 10 and heading fast towards puberty ... eeek! Sounds like your daughter is arty - mine is too!!!I am pleased to be your twin!!!!! :)
It certainly wouldn't ;) - though I must admit I've not even been in the mood for that - that's when I knew there must be something wrong!(((((Love and Hugs))))))
((((Aisling))))Glad to hear you are doing what you need to to take care of yourself. When you're a mom I think it's very common to put your needs at the bottom of the list, but truly that's really the last thing mothers should do, because others depend on them so.Sending tons of healing and helpful thoughts your way!
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